A bad date helps us to enjoy a good one, a good relationship gets us ready for a great one, a painful or arduous experience tests our composure, flexibility and resilience.
Translation: you’re trying too hard and it’s not hot. Everything we do prepares us for something else, for better and for worse.
Just as you respond to things based on what’s going on in your life and in your head, so do other people. Additionally, credentials are just paper—a job, a degree, or a “pedigree,” so to speak, is only one small part of a person, it is not Unless you: a) have endless time on your hands, b) like spending it running in circuitous motion, or, more likely, c) enjoy learning lessons the hard way, listen to your intuition. If something tells you it’s not right, it’s probably not.
Slow your roll, dial it back about 1,000 notches and stop reading into every teeny tiny little everything. Sadly, there is no sarcasm font, and emoticons will only get you so far in nonverbal response.
If you feel compelled to present yourself as something other than who you truly are, to have interests that you don’t really have, to know things you don’t really know then you are in trouble, my dear. Be willing to grow and learn and try new things—but label them clearly as such. Don’t spend your time trying to make something work that you know isn’t going to; things that are meant to be aren’t usually that complicated (well, unless you make them that way, in which case, please re-read #2).
You are who you are and that’s the end of the story sister. Know the difference between simply being uneasy because you are getting out of your comfort zone and what is legitimately no bueno para ti.
I have created a life so full of fun and friends and work and kids and personal fulfillment that finding time for the average guy was uh, well, not so reasonable—thus the ensuing “search” for Joe Squared commenced. Photo overshares to new acquaintances, by the way, come off as a marketing ploy.
I did, however, learn a lot about myself and my priorities, about the dating process, about other people and that I have an entire closet full of clothes but nothing to wear. Relationships are about bringing out the best in each other, not the worst, and not the person someone else wants you to be. Ask don’t tell, listen more than you talk, and stop sharing your entire life story in the first hour. People earn the privilege of hearing your personal information and story by earning your trust; save it for the right people. Your actions speak louder than your words, and uh, your selfies.Heavy riders would probably get on well with the Blizzard. The dropouts are so thick and the ‘lawyer’s lips’ — those annoying extrusions to stop the wheel dropping out — so pronounced (in a Mick Jagger kind of way) that the wheel skewer has to be totally unscrewed before the wheel can be removed. But for us, the extra weight was the only thing holding it back. The Blizzard boasts the fattest example of a flattened top tube we have ever seen.If Be One has designed the frame to stand apart from its competitors, it has certainly succeeded. Give us an old-fashioned adjustable seatpost any day.Having spent a good year getting reacquainted with myself and my charming set of idiosyncrasies, I recognized the occasion calling for me to stop avoiding male attention and to start practicing the art of social bullshitting again. If it comes let it come, if it stays let it stay, if it goes, well, let it go. If he responds intermittently to you, then yeah, you’re not the only girl in his contact list. Taken from the mouths of our wise elders, “Don’t make someone a priority who treats you like an option.” Seriously.